Making Marriage Fun Again

Far too many of us married people have never been taught the difference between getting married and being married.

Believe it or not, being married requires skiils that we don’t acquire during our dating life.  During courtship we are on our best behaviour.  Why?  Because we want another date of course!

Before marrige, we opt for a inspire and influnce model.  After all the person we’re courting needs to be impressed with us that they want to coutnue the relatioship.  This is as it should be.  The problem comes when we fail to continue the approach into the marriage itself.

After all, once your married you’ve got your mate in a legal and moral headlock; right?  But this is false thinking and leads to misery and ultimately the demise os the the marriage.

Assuming that being married is about command and control is a trap.  You can’t boss another person around or long.

Command and control is a toxic path that will split your connection.  Loving your mate well requires more of the same stuff you mastered during the getting married phase. 

Ask yourself this question, “Do my daily actions and words inspire my husband/wife?”  If not why not.  The more you inspire each other with your loving actions and words, the more influence you will be given.

Try being nice as a way of life.  Be thoughtful because you love each other and want to grow a great marriage over time.  Reject command and control tactics.  Opt for being truly good to the one you love and you will find that love growing naturally over time!  The ability to do this is what I call marriage intelligence.  

How much MI have displayed today?  The great thing about MI is we can get smarter over time at anything we choose to change!